I saw this mug on Pinterest a while ago, and boy… this week it belongs to me!!
I am ashamed to admit that I have not parented out of love this week – my reactions have stemmed from frustration and exhaustion. To be honest I have acted somewhat like a toddler in the way I have parented Tai. She seemed to be having a particularly ‘whiney’ week – when she moaned I moaned, when she cried I shouted, and when she wet her pants (yup, 5 months in we are still ‘potty training’) I let her know just how unhappy I was about it. It hurts to even type these words, but at the same time I am so thankful for the fact that I am now sitting on the other side of the fence with a great big dose of perspective!
Yesterday, I googled something about my toddler still wetting her pants (I was at my wits end) and one single line that I read broke everything! ‘Respond gently if your child is wet even if you feel angry; they do not want it to happen either’. Now while I knew this in my head, my heart had forgotten it. So I asked Tai: ‘Tai, is it nice for you to wet your pants? Do you like it?’ and she responded ‘No, it’s very yucky and stinky, I want to wee in the toilet’. My heart broke for her and I suddenly realised that she needed my help, that I still need to be teaching her how to do this properly, that this is a real battle for her and that getting angry with her really isn’t going to help her.
The conversation that followed is one that I want to remember for the rest of my life! I apologized for getting angry, I told her we were a team and that I was going to help her to get this right. And right there and then it was like someone cracked a very hard shell that had surrounded both her and I the entire week – she responded so positively, the whining that had been going on all week stopped and my frustrations fell off me like a ton of bricks. Suddenly, my role as her Mom was re-established and we were working together again rather than against each other.
I love being your Mommy Tailei! And I want more than anything to serve you and to teach you how to be an upstanding, God fearing adult. I truly am sorry for not always setting a great example for you but God is teaching me just as He is teaching you and I know that if we are seeking Him with all that we are, He will never forsake us. He is SO faithful and this week has been such a testimony of that! Keep your heart open to Him working in you my Angel…. and I will too!